The other night I was online and I was scrolling thru the waiting child lists of Guatemalan children who await loving families to adopt them. I noticed how many boys there are waiting for families .
It broke my heart.......... it always breaks my heart. Truly.
As a mother to 5 boys .... can I tell you that boys are GREAT??? Boys are awesome!
Boys are fun! Boys are so funny! Boys are truly a delight!
When we decided to adopt years ago --- we had at the time 3 daughters and one son.
We made our plans to prepare to adopt a son from Guatemala. We got our paperwork all ready to go.
We jumped thru the government "hoops" and became approved for one boy or twin boys. :)
God placed in my heart the idea that we may be blessed with 2 boys - not one!!!
Well, as always God was right and we ended up adopting twin boys!
They were 13 months at the age of referral and 21 months when they came home.
Can I tell you - they brought a lot of energy to our quiet home! Our home was never the same again!
The twins really did add a joy to our house. They were happy and they were full of life!
They added a new energy to our home, to say the least. :)
Later that year we opened up our home to yet another boy. Samuel was on a waiting child list.
He was 4 yrs old and waiting for a forever family. We knew that the chances of placing a school age boy were not high. We prayed, we searched our hearts and we decided that yes, we undoubtably had enough love and room to share our lives with one more son!
Samuel came home at almost 5 yrs of age. He was a quiet and sweet boy. Very mild mannered and
very sensitive to others. A champion of the "under dog" I call him! He was and continues to be a delight!
In 2004 we again felt the desire to adopt another waiting boy........ in came our Alma Jon...... he was 1 yrs old and had been waiting a long time for a family to call his own. We again decided to open our heart to another waiting boy. Alma has brought added joy to our home. He is a happy soul - loves to play and be a part of the craziness of our large family. :)
Can I tell you that all our sons were waiting boys? Each one of them had been waiting for a forever familiy to claim their "own". My husband and I have been blessed with these boys.
They are a delight! They are a joy!
Boys are wonderful - and while I love my dear girls - can I say that boys in many ways are esier to parent?
They are definately less emotional! They are more forgiving. Less likely to hold a grudge and more prone to "jump in and join the fun"! They are also very loving. Boys love their moms! They are just as affectionate as their sisters.
They are just as tender. They are very demonstrative and will often come up to me and give me one of those awesome "bear" hugs that I love! THey are full of kisses and hugs! They are a JOY!
It really breaks my heart to see so many waiting boys...........in Guatemala and all over the world waiting for loving families to call their own. Statics show that well over the majority of prospective adoptive parents hope to adopt a girl. So many boys wait months to be placed.
For those of you considering adoption can I encourage you to consider a boy? They are so wonderful!
As a mom to 5 very wonderful boys - I can tell you that I love them just as much as I do my girls!
My prayer is that more Guatemalan adoptive parents will open their hearts to a boy...........most agencies have no waiting lists for a boy. Do you think maybe you could be that one to open their heart to a boy?
I can promise you that you won't regret it! You will love your son as much as you would adopting a girl.
You will find JOY in so may ways!
I am grateful for my boys. They bless my life. They add excitement to my home!
My prayer continues to be ........... that more precious boys will find loving homes -- families to call their own.
Blessings,
Gloria
mom to 5 Guatemalan blessings
Gloria - Thank you for writing this. I have 2 girls and I love them to death but for folks out there who think it's easier with a girl... I say think again! ANY child is a handful, any. One of my girls is convinced she's a lion and she growls at us, she a dare devil who does things like jumps in water w/o knowing how to swim. She's the tough kid on the playground.
We love her just the same but remember I'm saying "She" She's all girl, she loves pink and purple, likes to play with dolls and dresses up.
We are in the process of adopting our son from Guatemala, he's 4 and a half and the sweetest little guy. He wakes every morning and you can hear this little "buenos dias" come out of him as he slowly opens his eyes to the day. He loves his new sisters and proclaims "Vamos a jugar hermanas!! HERMANAS vamos a jugar"
He also managed to dismantle Polly Pockets.
I guess my point is this, there is nothing wrong with a boy. Even if you are a single woman wanting to adopt, whether it be a girl or a boy, it's a child who needs love so if you are considering adopting just consider opening your heart to a little human being who needs the love and warmth of family.
Best, Rachel
Posted by: RachelFox at August 10, 2006 05:26 PMRachel --
Wonderful to hear that you are adopting a boy! He sounds precious! Our son , samuel was 4 yrs and 10 months old when he came home and he has been so easy to raise!
You are right - each child is unique and an individual. Some folks may think girls are easier - but like you said - that is not always the case! I think it's best to just say each child has moments where they are challenging and just because you have a girl does not mean they are going to be easier! :)
Our son samuel is by far the easiest going child in our family of 10 children. He is so sweet, mellow and really just a joy. I have some girls who can run circles around him as far as energy output is concerned. :)
So great to hear from you and know that there are others who are opening their hearts to a boy!
I sincerely hope your son is soon home!
Gloria
Posted by: gloria pickering at August 10, 2006 06:56 PMwhere did you find the listing of children at what site.. pls thank you
Posted by: kelly at August 10, 2006 09:51 PMThankYou~ThankYou~ThankYou
for saying this! I love my little boy with every ounce of my being!
The majority of people waiting with our agency are waiting for girls, and my heart breaks for the boys.I hope at least ONE person reads this and has a change of heart.
Gloria, thank you for champing the cause for the little boys in Guatemala!!!
We adore our little guy from Guatemala and have already started talking about giving him a little brother.
Cathie
Mama to one loving, giggling little boy
kelly --
All of our children were waiting children that we found on www.precious.org .
There is another website for waiting children called rainbow children........
Although we have success stories to share - I would caution you when looking at photolistings or waiting child lists.
Be careful and proceed with caution! Make sure to ask for references and make sure to find out **who** is running the case in Guatemala.
You will want to thoroughly check out the agency, and their guatemalan staff.
Unfortunately - there are some unethical agencies that use photolistings as a wait to "bait" a family. There are also attorneys who will try to place a child thru various agencies --- so please be careful.
It worked for us - but I know of too many families that "fell in love" with a photo and were hurt along the way.
Hope this helps!
Gloria
mom to 5 Guatemalan blessings
Gloria - thank you for stating that case for boys. When we started the process, I didn't have a preference. My husband said he would like a boy, so I went along with him. All I wanted was a baby! Boy, girl, brown, white, pink or purple didn't matter to me! What I got was the most precious son I could ever hope for! He is the absolute light of my life and now I completely feel like I am meant to be the mother of boys and we are in the process again to adopt another boy - one who had been waiting 5 months. I can't wait to bring him home and if the finances would allow, I'd take 2 or 3 more!!!
Dulcie Cattrell
Cathie & Carrie --
It's wonderful to hear of others who have been blessed with boys!
I do hope that more families open their hearts to adopting a boy...... so many wait.
Blessings,
gloria
mom to 5 Guatemalan blessings
As Gloria mentioned, there are several sites devoted just to waiting children. But don't forget that some agencies may have waiting boys and not photolist them. The agency we're using for our son's and daughter's adoptions had two baby boys waiting and NO families for them... one has found a home but the other one, at 5 months old, continues to wait. So ask around and see if any of your friend's agencies have waiting boys... you can help a waiting child this way AND also get first hand feedback on the agency and the lawyers.
Violetta
Posted by: Violeta at August 11, 2006 07:47 PMDulcie,
Great to hear from you!
I hope that your little one is home soon! I too love boys - they are great! Wish more little boys could find homes soon!
Blessings,
gloria
Violetta,
Hola!
Good point you made - many agencies have waiting boys.
Ask and you will see.
Many are very healthy infant boys who are precious. So if you are hoping for an infant - there are many baby boys who wait and wait and wait......as well as toddler boys and school age boys who even have a harder time being placed.
We have adopted 3 toddler boys and one son who was school age when he came home. They are each very precious!
Blessings,
gloria
Thank you Gloria for encouraging the adoption of boys!!! My husband really wanted to adopt a girl thinking they would be easier to raise (we already have a 9 y/o bio daughter who can be very stubborn!) and I felt there was no ethical reason to choose one gender over another. SO...we are adopting a 7 mo old waiting boy named Julian who has a cleft lip and palate. I am a nurse who can easily care for a medical special needs child and few people are open to *boys* and *special needs*. I believe he is Heaven sent and I pray God sends him to me soon so he can receive the care he needs! I only pray that we can be able to adopt more!
Love and Peace,
Ann-Marie