November 28, 2003


This year has been one of the wildest rollercoaster rides in the history of Guatemalan adoptions. So, with the incredible excitement of getting out of PGN and getting that pink slip, how could anyone possibly become depressed weeks later???

This year has been such an emotional rollercoaster!!!! I'm not a doctor and I don't play one on TV, but such highs and lows surely leave our chemical balance in a state of chaos!!! PADS (Post Adoption Depression Syndrome) is not a commonly heard term. Even the most informed parents find themselves shocked to fall victim to PADS mere weeks after returning with their precious baby. In fact, some form of depression, blue funk, panic or mental exhaustion plague over 50% of new adopting parents.

Scarier even still, the majority of parents tend to bottle it up because they are embarrassed! We've relied on our support groups DURING the process, now we feel ungrateful to mention this new hurdle in our lives! Moreover, our family and friends are often the last people to understand (they expect us to be skipping merrily along for the entire 18 or so years our children are with us!). Under the surface it threatens our health, our happiness and our relationships.

I feel that it is EXTREMELY important that ALL parents are aware of PADS. For many of us, this is more of a life-changing experience than we ever imagined (and we THOUGHT we were prepared for it). I am adding a PADS forum. If you are one of our new parents that find yourself in a blue funk, please seek the support of another parent that has been there. You may not want to publically discuss it on a forum, but at least find someone to talk to.

The first step is to be AWARE of it.

More Information - June Bond's 1995 Article from Roots and Wings.

Rainbow Kids Article

Posted by Kelly at November 28, 2003 02:12 PM