December 17, 2003

IAR transfers cases to Family Creations

Here is the article about the transfer of cases:

Dec. 17, 2003 - Sun Sentinel Article

Unfortunately, DFC has not returned my calls. I am disturbed that there may be a loophole for the executive director to continue to work on cases as a consultant as she is the one named in the license suspension of IAR. However, I am hopeful that this gives parents another option for their case.

I would think there are still other options for parents that do not want to work through Family Creations. I can't imagine legally requiring parents to work with an agency with which they have no binding contract.

My disclaimer here: I am not a, I hope you will take my comments with a grain of salt.

For parents searching for an agency: RESEARCH, RESEARCH, RESEARCH!!!! Go beyond a few referrals. Ask on adoption groups, check licensing, find out how they handle difficult cases!!! Don't be surprised if it takes you a couple of months to get a realistic glimpse. A less-than-ethical agency/lawyer cannot continue to function without clients!!!!

Posted by Kelly at December 17, 2003 12:37 PM

Thanks Kelly!
Another thing to think about when you are researching an agency:
Pick one that works with a number of countries you could see yourselves adopting from. A friend of mine signed up for a Georgia adoption, and when that country's program was suspended she found herself facing losing a lot of money or going with Russia, the agency's only other choice. (For various reasons, Russia does not appeal to her.) She wishes now that she had looked at agencies that work with several international programs.
As many of us have found out the hard way, international programs and their politics are unpredictable and we may find ourselves having to switch from one country to another! As Kelly wrote, 'Research, research research!'

Posted by: Maggie Marshall at December 17, 2003 01:38 PM

I can't agree enough, researching your agency is imperative. We had thought we had done enough research, but have been horribly disappointed with our agency. After 8 months of waiting, our worst fear came true - we were told we were ready to exit, and now we just found out we were kicked out with the same previo our attorney supposedly fixed a month ago. Here we were, making plans to travel and getting things set up with our respective employers to be out for an extended time, and now we are back at square one. We are, needless to say - simply and utterly devastated. We have been led by the nose for so long now, we don't know what to believe. And, because we are all required to sign a blanket hold harmless contract, we can do absolutely nothing. I urge anyone considering adopting to spend as much time researching agencies and choosing one, as you spent making the decision to adopt (if not more). For those of you out there who have been lucky enough to bring their children home already, my heart and soul rejoice with you. For those of you still stuck in the nightmare of waiting, my heart and soul cry with you also.

Posted by: Trish at December 17, 2003 08:22 PM

I think a word from Kelly, or someone knowledgeable from this site, about "being kicked out of the PGN" might do everyone a LOT of good right now, as it has happened to many. As I understand it, it DOES NOT mean that you are "back at square one." You do not have to return to the beginning of the line, so to speak, at PGN. You are still in PGN -- they are asking for a corrected document, or an additional document. Your case has not been "rejected." It is simply not ready to be approved in its current state. YOU ARE OK. Your patience has been stretched to the limit, of course, as has the patience of us all these past few months, but your little angel will come home...

Good luck and God Speed your adoption.


Posted by: Cindy at December 17, 2003 10:15 PM

I know this probably isn't the right section to post this but I had to share our wonderful news. We finally got the call yesterday telling us we had received PGN approval!! We received our referral on April 9th and we went into PGN about a month ago. Thankfully we received our approval without any complications. Because of the holidays our agency said that getting our Embassy appointment may be delayed but to plan on travelling during the first two weeks of January. I can't tell you how thrilled we are - we thought that call would never come. If anyone else is planning on on travelling during that time I'd love to hear from you; please e-mail me. For those still waiting please know that you are in my prayers; the only thing that got me through this process was faith. It seems like it will never happen but one day that call finally does become a reality.

God Bless and wishing everyone a very Merry Christmas

Posted by: Norma Jean at December 18, 2003 12:24 PM

Thank you Norma Jean. I check this sight every day for messages like yours. We have the exact same time frame as you, however we have not received the call yet. Our agency said it is likely that we will travel in January however. I am very very happy for you. Thank you for posting!!

Posted by: Valerie at December 18, 2003 02:13 PM

The problem is that the DCF said the files of IAR were being transferred to Family Creations, but they have not been transferred. Rebecca continues to work on the files and not family creations.

Posted by: Anon at December 18, 2003 11:02 PM

CONGRATULATIONS TO NORMA JEAN -- who just received PGN approval this week!!! That is a moment that we are all longing for, and it is wonderful to hear that someone has heard some good news!!!! This confirms that there really is a light at the end of the tunnel!!
We also got our referral in April -- we just got back into PGN a couple of weeks ago, and we pray that we get that fabulous phone call soon!!
Best wishes to Norma Jean and her family -- have a wonderful trip!!

Posted by: Laurie at December 19, 2003 12:42 PM

We too were matched in April - but have yet to get the call! All of you that have gotten the call-please continue to share your joy with us! Although we have been in PGN for almost 3 months now-it is good to hear the "pile" is shrinking!

Posted by: Lynn at December 19, 2003 03:58 PM

We also received "the call" this week. We are tenatively planning to travel Jan. 11th.

We're one of the older cases-we fell in love when our baby was 4 weeks old. He is now 14 months old. Nothing comlicated about the case, just took a looong time and a I'm sure I needed a lesson in patience. (I haven't been a happy camper the whole trip!)

My suggestion-stay as busy as you can and cast your burdens on the Lord.


Posted by: Lori at December 19, 2003 06:00 PM

We received our referral in March and our case had to go back into the PGN last week. Our lawyer was hoping to have it done this week but it wasn't. Congratulations to those of you who have received the phone call. We are still waiting but we know it will come soon. Our patience is definitely being tested. My husband and I wish everyone a happy holiday season.

Posted by: Melissa at December 20, 2003 05:22 PM

We too, got the call on 12/17. We got our referrals on May 21st, and our file went into PGN at the end of September, it was kicked out November 3rd and it went back in on November 19th.
We are adopting a boy and a girl, he is 14 months now and she is 7 1/2 months old. We just can't tell you enough how FAITH kept us throughout this process, please never lose your faith and pray all the time. I too visited this site on a daily basis looking for all of those who had gotten their call and trying to figure out what was going on in comparison to ours. Finally, I came to the conclusion that there are no rules nor pattern to follow with PGN, therefore, we just had to wait for our time whenever it would be, and it happened. I wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year, and pray that all of your cases come out real soon.
We plan to travel the 1st week of January.

Posted by: Zoila at December 20, 2003 11:32 PM

We also finally recieved the wonderful news that we have been approved by the PGN!!! We recieved the call on December 18. We received our referral in May, so our little girl will be 8 months old when we bring her home. i cannot tell you how much praying we, as a family, have done in the last few months. God has been there with us every step of the way. We also have learned important lessons in patience, perseverance, and faith. We have been challenged, like all of you, but, with God, all things are possible! He is with all of you, as well. We will be travelling in early January to pick her up. We look forward to meeting some of you. May God Bless all of you that are still waiting to hear some good news and to those of you travelling. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Posted by: Lori Fisher at December 22, 2003 03:33 PM

Can someone give me the PGN's phone number to call?

Posted by: JK Walters at December 22, 2003 07:49 PM

Is it true that PGN will be closed from Christmas until New Years?

Posted by: cheryl at December 24, 2003 11:08 AM

One more light at the end of the tunnel- we got a surprise call saying little Alejandra was out of pgn before we even knew she was IN in it. As excited as I am to travel in the next couple weeks, one can't help wonder - why me? Why not other families waiting longer? We do not know but as a friend says everything happens for a reason. I have a friend in this position waiting longer than me and don't know how to tell him . He has been at it longer than I with many mine fileds along the way. Any advice?

Posted by: Katie Huebschen at December 27, 2003 11:48 PM

Congratulations Katie and all of the others who have received good news lately!
I am happy for you and know in my heart that one day it will be our turn!
Katie, Yes everything happens for a reason and sometimes that reason isn't evident until later. You had no control over your case going smoothly or quickly just as others who have also done everything right end up having their cases stalled.
I believe that your friend will be happy for you and will understand this. What is your time-line?

Posted by: EB at December 28, 2003 12:10 AM

Tomorrow is my birthday. I am a little depressed about still not having our children. We accepted our referral the end of May. Our DNA tests were in the US Embassy on October 07 and are still not out. We actually went to the US Embassy in Guatemala on November 16. They had mis-filed the DNA tests. Whom ever it was we spoke with, said our tests would be processed very soon. Our lawyer submitted our case to the PGN knowing it would be rejected, and it was. Now we wait for the US Embassy to finish what they should have done weeks ago before we can go further.
waiting for Miguel - 3yrs on Dec 23 and Lorenza (his sister) 8 months on Dec 23.

Posted by: Ritta Knapp at December 28, 2003 04:53 PM

It seemed reassuring everyone that waited so long would soon receive their call. However, as each day passes, hope, prayer, and determination are not enough. What are the agencies and lawyers doing to correct this unfairness to the children? Perhaps compiled timeline stats could change one lawyer's view at PGN while easing the pain of families realizing they are not alone or forgotten.

Referral - January 2003

Posted by: GS at December 29, 2003 09:39 AM

Cheryl......We just spoke to our consultant and she told us the PGN was closed until January 5th.

Posted by: Melissa at December 29, 2003 12:16 PM

EB - thanks for the replying. I agree in my heart my friend will be happy for me but it just seems so unfair. I called him tonight and had to leave a message. What ever happens, We will all get out of this process with something we have hoped for for a long time. We got the referral in early Sept 2003 of Alejandra 2 weeks old, DNA results Oct 30 and then absolutely nothing until Dec. 22 or so when my constant badgering for just another picture than the one we had or a medical update brought the news Ally was out of pgn. We were to have travelled twice (Wisconsin likes it that way) and have her home in march but with this blessed surprise She will be 5 months old when we go in January and bring her home.
If all adoptive parents got this surprise I would be overjoyed. Sad thing is this may have always been the normal timeline -?- Now, we waiting parents just wait and are surprised when things seem to go - or happen at all. I pray for all of us for good things to happen and babies to come home soon. It looks like there has been a lot of progress recently in posts. It will HAPPEN and you will be shocked and your heart will POUND!

Posted by: Katie Huebschen at December 29, 2003 09:58 PM

I am so happy for you and your family. Perhaps this is a sign of the future and that things will go quicker now, especially for those who have waited for so very long.

Posted by: EB at December 30, 2003 02:35 AM