August 15, 2005
Welcome Home - Mi Hijo
Okay, I couldn't resist. Yes, I managed to keep it quiet while we were in process but now it might as well change. A couple of months ago I published "Quiero Paz", a picture of an adorable little guy holding up a peace symbol. What made the picture all the more cool was that he was soon to be my son and that he was proving he was ready for the job.
We brought Samuel Alberto home the week before last. I am very happy to say that he is adjusting amazingly well and for that we owe a huge debt of gratitude to his wonderful foster mom Ana (whose apellido happens to be Paz as well). His big sister Isabel has taken to him wonderfully, showers him with kisses, and seems to understand how gentle babies need be treated. And the cool thing is that she now wants some baby stuff so the other night she actually asked for "pacha cuna" (bottle and crib) - not normal for a rambunctious two year old - at least not ours!
My family has been blessed not only with two wonderful children but also with an extended family in Guatemala. This is true in many ways. First of all, Isabel and Samuel are biological siblings. And we now have added another wonderful foster family for me to praise on the site. The only challenge is how do we refer to their foster families? Isabel's foster mom is Abuela (Grandma) Betty. But Samuel's says she is too young to be a grandmother and is now Tia (Aunt) Ana. How do we explain this difference to the kids?
Any ideas are welcome.
Posted by Kevin at August 15, 2005 06:29 PM
Kids are amazingly easy to explain things to. The more simple you make it, the easier. For now, just the names are fine. That is their family in Guatemala. We have all sorts of different names for our families here at home (Papa and Gummy, Grandpa and Grandma, Uncle so-and-so, Auntie so-and-so, etc) so whatever name you give these wonderful people, that is who the children will learn to know them as. There is really no explanation necessary, especially now. There will be a lot of other things to worry about, raising two little ones... don't sweat the small stuff!
I can say this with conviction, by the way, as not only do we have the 2 two year olds from Guatemala, but I have a 23 year old daughter and a 21 year old son from a "previous life" as well!
What a cutie-pie! That pic just makes me want to pinch his little cheeks! Ya'll should be so proud of him, he's adorable!
Kevin, congratulations. I appreciate this site so much and I'm so happy to hear about your new, wonderful addition to your family.
congratulations from me as well!!! so happy to hear your news
your site is very valuable for so many people - have fun getting to know your son
What a cute little guy! Best Wishes!
Hi, I've been reading your blog for a few weeks now, and I'm so happy for you and your family - congrats!
I am so happy for you guys!!!! Congrats, congrats, congrats! As you know my son is one of the fortunate children who also spent the first part of his life with Tia Ana...I feel certain when the time comes for your guys to understand the difference Tia Ana, herself, would be more than happy to tell Samuel and Isabel why the difference!!!! And knowing Ana, I'm SURE she has an answer! I hope everything continues to go so well for all of you!!!!
Daena, mom to Daniel
Dear Kevin - Many, many congratulations to you and the rest of your beautiful family! Your son is absolutely precious. I love hearing adoption stories and seeing the photos of the new families . . . it makes me relive the wonderful day we first met our little Luis Alberto. Felicidades!! Anne Cralle, adoptive mom to Luis (16 mo. old and born in Guatemala) and employee of Homestudies and Adoption Placement Services (HAPS) in Teaneck, NJ
ADORABLE!! Congrats to your whole family!
Just wanted to say CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Your son is beautiful!
I agree with Martha's comments. Kids easily accept differences in names and the different meanings of the same names. For example, my children call their Godparents "Aunt" and "Uncle" but they know and understand that they are neither my brother and sister nor my husband's. And that their children are not their cousins, just very special friends.
Mommy to the Fab Five
including Londy and Jeremy born in Guatemala
I just wanted to say a HUGE CONGRATS and what a beautiful lil hijo nuevo you have there. It's very encouraging & uplifting to hear your story. My husband & I are wondering when to start on our 2nd adoption, as Connor just turned 13 months last week. I'm guessing by the time #2 would be home, he would be close to 2 as well. Sounds like Miss Isabel is doing a great job, tho!! My question to you is how in the WORLD could you keep that a secret? haha...You're much stronger than I would be!
Congratulations on your son. We just finished our adoptions after a nearly three year wait. We have three beautiful 2 year olds. They will be three in Oct, Dec and May. Your son is georgeous and I wanted you to know that I enjoy this site so much, even now that we are finished.
Kevin & family,
Felicidades!! Congratulations on the addition of your little guatemalan blessing!
I had the pleasure of chatting with you and meeting your beautiful family at the Marriott when we were there with our family. ( we were the ones with all the kiddos!)
I know you are enjoying your son!
I also wanted to express appreciation for your efforts in keeping this site up and keeping us all educated on guatemalan adoption law/process, etc.
I am praying so hard that things stay open in guatemala - for the sake of the children.