February 07, 2006

Chapter Three - Adoption Options 2

This chapter was a bit too long for one entry. So here is the very end of it. Read the posting just below this one first.

Back to the story...

There is something very strong to be said about being able to account for your child’s life before being adopted. It’s not hard to understand why it would be important for adult adoptees to have some answers. This is an area that many countries need to work on. It is one thing to protect the privacy of the birthmother, it is another to deny the children of things like their birth name or infant photographs. I say this because it was a real strongpoint for Guatemala. If you piece together some of the things that have been brought up you’ll understand. In an adoption from Guatemala, you know about the birthmother. You have pictures from the time the child is just a few days old. You can visit the child soon after. This means that you will be able to show the child how young they were when they first physically came into your life. I’ve been told that the second grade can be a real killer on children adopted from some countries. The second grade is apparently when it is a standard assignment to bring in your baby pictures. It actually meant something to us to know that our child would not have to avoid that assignment.

All arrows were pointing straight for Guatemala. In our analysis, it offered us the chance to bring home the youngest child possible. We would have the ability to visit the child along the way. We’d be able to have some information about the birthmother. The children are generally very healthy and well cared for. And if we wanted, we could provide that care. There was a natural attraction to the country and visiting would not be a chore. We felt good about the process. We were confident that it provided the best option for being able to raise the child given the uniqueness our family would have.

We had been through a lot. We had done our research. We had reached an informed decision. All the simple stuff was done. It was the time for action.

It was time go down the golden road to unlimited devotion in the land of eternal spring.

Posted by Kevin at February 7, 2006 08:59 AM

Love it all...can't wait for more! I get chills as I read this because it's like looking in the mirror. We went through the exact same thought process and made our decision to go to Guatemala for the same reasons that you list in this chapter. When we began our adoption journey, Guatemala was temporarily closed and did not seem like an option at the time so we were forced to look into other Countries. Something (now we believe it was fate) just kept pulling me back to Guatemala and so we waited. We were almost scared away, though, due to the uncertainty of the continued adoption process in Guatemala at the time, mostly due to the antics of UNICEF. I can't describe how happy we are now that we did wait and we believe that it was meant to be, of course. Life without our Anna is completely unthinkable to us...I truly believe that she was born to be our daughter for life!! Thanks so much for sharing...

Posted by: Monica,Anna's Mom-KS at February 9, 2006 08:36 AM

This is very well written. You really have a knack for explaining thought processes. I suppose we went through these thought processes too but have yet to take time to name them as you have. We felt EXACTLY the same way you describe in "pick me, pick me" but I could never put those thoughts into words...just knew that the risk of (more)rejection through domestic adoption wasn't for us. Bravo...a long read but a great one!

Posted by: malynn at February 10, 2006 11:20 AM

Enjoying every word Kevin....I can't wait to get to the good stuff!!

Posted by: Becky at February 16, 2006 04:47 PM
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