Comments: Is it what we all expected?

I periodically stop by Guatadopt to see what, if anything, is going on. Glad to see that you have some new musings about your kids and some other new information.

Is parenthood what I expected? Gosh, such a loaded question. We're at a place in our life where only the two children that we adopted from Guatemala were "planned". They are now 7 1/2 and we have a 6 year old, a 4 year old, and twins on the way in March. I thought parenthood would be more planned. Boy was I wrong!

Glad that you said what you did about adoption parenting. I worry sometimes that I'm doing something wrong because we just parent, everyone of them in the same way. I hear I wish you never adopted me from two and I wish I was born in someone's family from two. All four tell me they don't know why we had (pick a sibling) and now I have to hear why do we need two more babies? Life around here is busy as we juggle 4 little personalities and two big ones.

When we started our parenting journey, we could never have anticipated the magnitude of the joy or the exhaustion. I know I never imagined the joy I feel at their happiness and the pain that comes with their hurt. But at the end of every day, we are a family. We are different than some and the same as others. We keep it real and we love each other. That has to count for something.

Comment by Janet Renda at October 26, 2013 09:09 AM

Hi, So glad to see you back. I love the picture and the familiar thoughts about what we expected from parenthood and what it turned out to be. I am sorry that the Guatadopt team and you particularly were subjected to a lawsuit after your great work in supporting people and providing opportunities for balanced information.
I'll be back again to talk some more. Great to her from you. Bernie

Comment by Bernie McCabe at November 8, 2013 02:31 PM

Nice to hear your story, Kevin. I feel similarly about the energy lack! It's way more exhausting than I thought it would be, and I am less patient than I wish I were. But I really try to treasure every moment, enjoy the simple things, and I sure love her like crazy!

We live in a town of just 4000 that has been amazingly supportive and understanding. We will see when she gets older how important it might be to move to a larger town with more diversity, and whether racism and anti-Hispanic-immigrant comments will emerge when she is not a cute baby anymore. But I hope for the continual enlightening of our society, and for the best.

Comment by Reba2 at November 20, 2013 03:22 PM

It's hard for me to remember my life before my son came along. He is now 7, and his attention has mostly shifted to all things "DAD." It's really nice to see, but sometimes I just miss the attention from my little guy. I miss the bottle/sippy cups, the diapers...yes, diapers! I miss going through the baby isles at Target looking for the latest in baby gear. He's older now, and now into different things. But I still look at him in awe. It's still amazes me that he's actually here, even after all these years. It just breaks my heart to know that there are families out there, who started their process before we did, and they still wait. It's just heart breaking.

Comment by Diana I at October 2, 2014 12:06 PM

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